Case 1: I had an elderly couple for brunch this morning . I cooked up a storm – two vegetables, two kinds of salads, two kinds of crisps etc. to go with three main dishes.
The woman of the couple talks into her cell phone throughout the meal and the man eats silently. No acknowledgement of the effort put into the meal. Yes, I made the meal out of respect and certainly not to score brownie points, but would it kill to acknowledge if not appreciate?
Case 2: Kid returns from an exam, distraught because she hadn’t done as well as she had hoped. I hug her and tell her “it’s ok, do better next time”. Above woman of pair starts off on a lecture about how formal education is not important and her own offspring, who barely passed exams when younger, is now successful etc. It pissed me off to no end because my family believes that education is important. That aside, what kind of advice is that? I told the woman that I’d thank her to not diss education to my kid and she got all offended.
Case 3: I will be attending a play today, with a friend. I am excited about it. However, I had to make elaborate arrangements so that my family is taken care of, gastronomically and otherwise in my absence. I realise that this is my own prison and that it’s women like me who set back gender equality by decades. Yet I cannot bring myself to say “I am going to enjoy myself this evening. You take care of yourselves” without judgemental guilt killing me. Disgusting woman I am.
Hopefully there is no case 4. I will be leaving for the play in a few minutes. Will probably write about it tomorrow.